TopicHow To Get An Ex Back: 5 Essential Steps
105 postsThu 15th Nov 2018 - 5:01am
It usually takes people several weeks to break bad habits or withdraw from things that have been a huge part of their life for any period of time. Likewise, it will take you some time to detox from your ex. For the no contact rule to be effective, I’d say give yourself at least four weeks to detox and get back to yourself. I know getting through the day without the one person who was once the center of your life can feel impossible. At first, you might feel a little lost and empty. But I promise once you power through those first few days, it will get easier. Just keep your end goal in mind and remember that doing this is what’s best for you.
Is he really the right guy for you? It might feel that way because you miss him so badly, but missing someone doesn’t mean they are the right person for you. And wanting them to be there doesn’t mean they are meant to be in your life. It’s amazing what you can see with a little bit of time and distance. You might find you’re happier without him, that you can breathe easier, that you’re more like yourself again and maybe you realize getting back together with him isn’t a good idea. Or maybe a little time away causes you to see his good qualities that you took advantage of during the relationship. Maybe now you’re better able to support his vision for the future whereas you weren’t on board before. Whatever the case, sometimes you need to step away from something to see it more clearly.
One of the most devastating mistakes you can make is trying to force it to work with a guy who is wrong with you. I’ve seen people spend years of their life trying to shove a square peg into a round hole. Everyone in their life tells them to just move on and let him go but they can’t. Why? Because they don’t have clarity or any objectivity because they are still sucked into the emotional whirlpool and have yet to break themselves free.